The One Trait you need to Reach itt

The One Trait you need to Reach itt

29 January 2021

We as a society get caught up in “what” we want to become, instead of what it takes to become it. We concern ourselves with the destination, not the journey. This type of thinking is what leads many astray. They tire themselves out and burn the candle at three ends, and still don’t end up reaching their goal. In actual fact, most of them forget what their original intention was in the first place.

We’ve talked before about the importance of knowing your why – the reason as to how reaching your goal is going to help you become the person you want to be. It all stems from who you are and what you do with the time that is given. If you want to improve your chances of success in a single day, you need to approach your day, every day, as if it’s your last.

Here’s how you can do that: Success begins in the morning. The easiest way to practice doing what you say you’re going to do is to wake up when you say you’re going to wake up. If you set your alarm the night before to wake up at a set time, do it. If you don’t, and you opt for an extra 5 minutes – or more – in bed, you’re setting a precedent for yourself for the rest of the day that it’s okay not to follow through on your intentions, and you’re reinforcing the wrong trait.

So, what is the 1 Trait that will give you success? …… Discipline.

Everything stems from Discipline. If you think back to anything you have achieved in your life so far – you can attribute the level of success you’ve had to your discipline leading up to your achievement.

On a personal level, discipline has been one of the things I’ve worked hard on the most to develop and improve on. To be perfectly honest – it not easy to stay disciplined. We’re not born naturally to have a ten out of ten discipline level. It’s a skill, and like any skill, it can be learned, worked on, and improved over time.

We live in a culture where things are constantly fighting for our attention, and have developed to become very good at taking it. From Social Media notifications engaging us by day to Netflix giving us better recommendations by night. Everywhere we look seems to suck us in, into helping someone else achieve their goal,

leaving little time for us to delve in and focus on our own goals. If we are not careful and disciplined, we can never really engage long enough with activities that are directly related to helping us get one step closer to reaching our goals. You may have heard of something called a “Flow State” or it’s more commonly known as “being in the zone” – this is a psychological phenomenon where the mental state in which a person performing some activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energised focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. In essence, flow is characterized by the complete absorption in what someone does, and a resulting transformation in one’s sense of time. That’s how you can notice when you were in it. Do you ever watch a film and get so immersed in it, that when it finishes you only then realise that two hours flew by without you even noticing?

Try to enter your flow state whenever you want to work towards one of your goals. Again, entering your flow state gets easier the more you practise, and you will get better with it over time. You can use mini habits to boost your chances of entering your own flow state by doing things like removing distractions, dedicating a set amount of time just for that activity, listening to music that helps you concentrate such as melodies or study playlists without lyrics. It’s amazing what can be achieved when you’re not getting distracted constantly.

Next time you want to focus on something, simply turn off all possible notifications and remove the temptation to get drawn back into them. Yes, your phone is on silent, but would adding an additional element of resistance like leaving your room in another room help further? Give it a go for just half an hour. A focused 30 minutes is worth way more than an unfocused 3 hours. You’ll be surprised by how much you can accomplish in a short amount of time when you aren’t constantly losing your train of thought.

We know now more than ever the importance physical exercise has on us, and how they affect the other areas in our life which we are focusing on, no matter what it is – school, work or even leisure time. If you spent the majority of your time by a computer, you’re mainly straining your mental side – solving problems by using your mind to create solutions. It’s equally as important to tire your body out too, and you can do this by setting aside at least an hour a day to doing a physical activity – a mini workout or even playing a sport with some friends. Be disciplined enough to set aside a period each day and make time for it, if you don’t, no one else will make it for you. This will ultimately help you when you get back to mentally focusing on what it was you were doing beforehand, so consider it an investment. An investment in health always pays the best interest.

Practise identifying things which do not help you reach your overall objectives to help you decide what you should channel your energy towards, and what not to. People that have mastered self discipline are tremendously powerful in manifesting their intentions. They understand the value of each and every life choice, which means they don’t take anything for granted. This can be done by avoiding harmful things entering your body too, smoking, drinking, junk foods even. Discipline is difficult to acquire, but extremely valuable to those willing to put in the time and effort. With continued practise, this is something that, over time this, you will get much better at.

Even something so simple such as at the end of the day, instead of doing something mindless up until you go to sleep, use that as an opportunity to stay productive and prepare yourself for the next day and how you’re going to continue with your objectives. You could do this by visualising how your ideal day would go and creating a plan which spans the day, or even simply creating a checklist of 2 or 3 things you want to achieve by the time the day comes to a close.

You could also use it as an opportunity to think about how your day today went. What you liked about it, which was most beneficial for helping you reach your goals, and what you could have improved on. It gives you an opportunity to reflect, on how far you’ve come, and where you’re going. It’s a great way to keep on track what direction you want your life to take and help you follow your own dreams instead of somebody else’s.

I’m Pete and let’s reach itt!

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